Here are a few definitions to accompany the Fact Sheet:
Aggression is an impulse experienced by everyone. Anger is a normal emotion, but the way it is used can be destructive. Violence occurs when the impulse takes over and is manifested by a loss of control over words and actions.
A violent person has lost control, but wants above all to control others. He or she seeks to attack the other person, or damage what is important to them (relatives, friends, animals, achievements, objects). Our individual perception of others’ aggression depends on our personal opinion and our life experiences, which means that the level of tolerance of aggression varies from one person to another. However, aggression must be expressed in a socially acceptable way.
There are various forms of violence: psychological, verbal, economic, physical and sexual. Also, many forms of violence can be manifested during a single incident.
- Psychological violence is aimed at undermining the victim’s self-confidence or self-esteem (criticizing them, putting them down, accusing them of anything and everything, insulting, humiliating, starting rumours, insulting the victim’s family or friends, calling the person names).
- Verbal violence consists of creating a climate or sense of fear in order to control or punish the other person. It creates in the victim a fear for their physical safety. It often involves threats. In domestic or family violence, verbal violence can not only make the victim(s) worried about their physical health and safety, but also their mental health. In all cases, the victim lives in a state of fear.
- Economic violence aims to subject the victim to financial consequences. This type of violence may be used to gain control over another person by depriving them of money or food, or by verifying everything they purchase (especially in domestic violence). Control can also be exercised by giving an extravagant gift or a lot of money, which leads the aggressor to believe that the victim is indebted to them.
- Physical violence occurs when the person expresses violence through bodily action, with the goal of hurting the other person, controlling them or creating an environment of fear, or even with the goal of hurting themselves.
Primary source: http://avif.weebly.com/quest-ce-que-la-violence.html
Information provided by CALACS, Tel-Jeunes, and Travailler avec la violence by Pierre l’Heureux and Communiquer sans violence by M. Trépanier.
Fact Sheet: An Aggressive Person
It is important to develop a preventive approach to aggression: a way to react that will not make the situation worse. It is important to know how to recognize the signs in order to protect ourselves.
|THE SIGNS||WHAT TO DO||WHAT NOT TO DO|
The aggressor shows intensity about:
Threatens to do harm
Claims to be the victim
Has mental health problems
There is a ripple or spillover effect (influence of a group or crowd)
Rely on your intuition
Remain calm and keep a distance from the aggressive person
Take care of your personal safety and make sure you have a way out
Listen without interrupting or anticipating
Be aware of non-verbal communication
Speak slowly and calmly
Use simple words and short sentences
Get pulled into the spiral of agitation and negative emotions
Attempt to investigate
Argue, make justifications
Feel personally attacked
Do be aware of non-verbal communication!
In crisis situations, avoid telling the person that they need help and should consult a therapist.
What you can do for yourself (recovery techniques):
CIUSSS de l'Estrie - CHUS, RLS du Haut-Saint-François
INFO-SANTÉ / URGENCE-DÉTRESSE : 811 (Health help line, emergency/ distress): 811
Virage santé mentale (mental health services in French)
La Passerelle Women’s Centre Centre des Femmes du Haut-Saint-François La Passerelle
Lennoxville & District Women’s Centre (women’s services in English)
Jeunesse J’écoute (Kids Help Phone)
Web site (in English): http://kidshelpphone.ca/teens/home/splash.aspx?lang=en-ca(link is external)
Quebec Police, Haut-Saint-François MRC Station